Start with the words, ‘I can’t ‘ or ‘I’m not’ and fill in the blank with something you are bad at. Or something you can’t do. Something you haven’t gotten good at…no matter how hard you have tried. You have an evolved mind. So you should know all the things you can and can’t do. You know all the things that you are, and that you aren’t. You know the things you’re good at, and the things that you are definitely not…and never will be. I am not creative. I am not a math person. I do not handle change well. I don’t do well speaking in public. I choke in pressure situations. I can’t comprehend anything I read. I can’t stay focused. I am really set in my ways. Congratulations. You have self-awareness. Being self-aware…it’s something that we pride ourselves on. It’s something that we wear as a badge (…)
To paraphrase, Self awareness is shackling yourself. You may not be good at math….yet.
Living and working with purpose is a process of self-discovery—and one most of us never let ourselves undergo.
"You decide on a career before you hear your calling."
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
Remember to put the glass down.
If I ask you, “What do you want out of life?” and you say something like, “I want to be happy and have a great family and a job I like,” it’s so ubiquitous that it doesn’t even mean anything. What’s more interesting to me is what pain do you want?
The barrier to all our hopes and dreams— we can want the happiness, financial stability and physical well-being all we want….. but not if we can’t sustain the pain and struggle that goes along with it. This is why I struggle to reach my resolutions… I need to find a way to phrase them in a way that will motivate me to suffer through the pain that comes along with living with less, frugality, and physical fitness.